Help! My child is psychic. Now what??
I work with many families who are understandably concerned about, or even fearful of, their child's/children's psychic or sensory abilities. Having no frame of reference, the psychic realm is uncharted territory. How do you parent for this?
This is much more common than many parents know, and most parents are not prepared. If you are having issues of a spirit/spiritual/energetic nature at home, and are brand-new to all of this, here is some information that may help:
1. DON’T PANIC!!
Know that sensing energies and spirits is perfectly natural. All of us are born psychically “open” and energetically sensitive, to some degree. Most kids see and feel things that adults do not, as they’re more recently arrived from Source/God.
However, they can learn to “turn it off” if it frightens them or their adults, or if not encouraged to use and trust it, but know that this can cause problems down the road.*
This gift can be a tremendous help to your child as s/he grows, though! Living an intuitive or sensitive life is rich in experience. Those who know about and understand our gifts would not trade them for the world.
2. Put on your oxygen mask first.
Your child is energetically sensitive and will react to your fear, anxiety, or frustration. In fact, work hard to “mind your energy.” Deal with frustration, anger or fear as they arise; do not linger over hurts; make amends with others; practice good self-care.
As parents, we are our child’s first teachers. All children look to their parents for cues; energetically sensitive children unconsciously take it up a notch and will absorb and mirror our emotions. It’s recommended that you adopt a meditation practice to help you have more presence of mind and release stress.
3. Acknowledge and share your gifts.
If you feel you are sensitive yourself, perceiving things that others do not, let your child know! You can learn to use and trust these gifts together. Spiritual gifts often—though not always—run in families.
4. Turn off the spotlight.
Be careful of “spotlighting” your child. You may be curious about and proud of your child’s abilities, but your sensitive child will usually not want to have them spotlighted—or worse, be asked to “perform” by demonstrating them to others.
This is the child’s gift; let him/her decide when to share and who with—especially in their presence. Sensitive kids usually feel different already and may even be bullied because of it. Spotlighting them can make them feel like a freak, especially with their peers.
If you want to get help understanding these gifts or helping your child deal with them, include the child in the process in an age-appropriate way. A sensitive child who feels spotlighted or uninvolved will feel anxiety, frustration, or anger.
Do all you can to help the child feel like these gifts are normal and that she/he is normal.
5. Follow your child's lead.
Let your child tell you if he/she wants to develop these gifts. It may be very exciting and interesting for the family, but to your child it can be overwhelming, confusing, and possibly frightening. If your child wants to acknowledge these gifts but not focus on them, that's fine! You don't have to "do" anything about these gifts beyond listening to your child and taking their experience seriously. Let your child tell you what s/he needs. The temptation will be to think that these gifts must be developed or used, but ultimately it’s the child’s choice. Allow them to use or not use these gifts themselves.
6. Know what they came here to do.
Having psychic and energetic ability might seem like a “cool” talent to parents, much like innate musical ability, but to the kids, it’s their life and who they are--not what they do. They did not choose these gifts on a conscious level, and they may or may not choose to develop these gifts, and that’s OK!
So many kids are what I call “the new kids,” with abilities such as seeing and feeling energy, seeing spirits, telepathy, having psychic knowledge, and more. Most will not be professional psychics, healers, or spiritual gurus. Rather, they will be computer programmers, plumbers, hairdressers, etc. who live their lives with a heightened spiritual connection.
Know that that’s what they came here to do—to help humanity achieve homo spiritus, the next evolution of homo sapiens. As such, this is much greater than a neat trick that your child can do.
7. Don't ask your kid for advice.
Likewise, there may be a temptation to ask your child to “see” for you or others, either formally or informally. This actually puts the child in the awkward position of advising adults, throwing off the dynamics of power in the family and giving them more responsibility than they are comfortable with.
And speaking as a professional intuitive, we can miss things or occasionally misinterpret the information we receive. Above all, it is important to have the proper perspective for the information we receive, which a child does not have the discernment or maturity to distinguish. As such, it is important to help the child learn how to balance the information she receives.
8. Recognize the "clairs".
You may not know that psychic ability comes in many forms. Clairvoyance is the most well-known ability, but there are actually four “clairs”: clairaudience, clairsentience, claircognizance, and clairvoyance.
Just because your child may see spirits or angels does not mean he sees them the same way that Teresa Caputo or John Edwards do. Just because a child is what we would call “psychic” does not mean that they can tell if a place is “haunted.” There are many levels to this, and everyone is different.
9. Protect your child's energy.
Help your child perform good self-care. A hungry, tired, or overstimulated child will be more vulnerable to other's energy, including from non-physical beings. Happy, healthy kids are more protected from others’ emotions and stress.
10. Set boundaries like a boss.
Help your child establish good boundaries. Respect their wishes with love and logic and encourage other family members to do the same. Teach your child to respect others. Having healthy boundaries will serve as a protection to him or her.
11. Guide your kid to trust her/his gut.
If your child has a bad feeling about a place or person, honor it. Certain places hold negative energy and emotion, as well as low-level spirits, which may make your child feel ill or anxious. Likewise, if there are any people your child just doesn’t want to be around, don’t force it. That doesn’t necessarily mean that this person or place is “bad”—just that it is not a good energetic match for your child. What your child may see, hear, or feel with a person or location may be overwhelming or even frightening.
That said, do check out any strong hunches you or your child may have about people, locations, or situations and do your due diligence to check them out if you have any concerns. As a parent, honor your own intuition about a situation.
12. Follow your child's lead and seek the right teacher.
Know that all children are special and unique. All have innate gifts in different areas—music, sports, art, writing, being a good friend, etc. Having spiritual gifts is just another innate talent. Like other gifts, we should all take our cues from the child. Not all children who are good at sports will want to go through training to be Olympic athletes, and not all who are good at music will have the dedication to be professional musicians or feel confident performing because a parent wants her to.
Take your cues from your child. Is she confident in her abilities? Does he want to share about them with others? Does she want to learn more about them?
If your child wants to develop these gifts, please seek a teacher who has skill and knowledge in this area. There is a lot of confusing and mis-information out there, but there are also many trusted professionals who have the depth of experience and ability to help.
13. Keeping your child safe.
It is very important to use these gifts safely. If your child expresses interest in developing these abilities, or has a difficult time turning them off or using them with discernment, it would be helpful to set up some basic protections.
This is not like carrying a semi-automatic weapon into a shady alley. Rather, it’s the common-sense precaution of bringing an umbrella if it looks like rain.
As I like to say, when the “light” is on, all the bugs come—the Luna moths as well as the biting bugs. Spirits on the other side want to communicate. Lower-level beings, those who are mired in ego and only want to serve themselves, have an easier time communicating with those whose lights are on. They have nothing to offer us; they are very selfish in their motives. Those are not the ones you want your child to communicate with.
As a parent, we need to know that while there is nothing that can truly harm a child, it is easy for sensitive children to feel anxiety, which can lead to physical and emotional symptoms. There are many things they can do to help them: Invoking the names of Jesus, God, or any archangels or ascended masters they feel drawn to; using crystals to help them shield; or carrying icons or medals of saints. Be careful, though, of a dependence on amulets or talismans. They can become lost or broken. Each of us is powerful enough to call in protection.
The most powerful protection is asking God, Jesus, Mother Mary, Buddha, Archangel Michael, a favorite archangel or ascended master—or a loving, compassionate guide of the highest light—to surround them with a bubble of protective light.
14. Enjoy your child.
Lastly, let your kid be a kid! You only have one shot at childhood. Children should be happy and feel connected and loved.
Some of this information may seem repetitive, but it's important. There is much more to this subject that does not fit into a single blog post. If you have questions or need assistance adjusting to this “new normal,” please contact me.
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